New You Resolution
Ah, New Year’s Resolutions. Also known as, the art of setting, and not exactly accomplishing, goals. For most, just saying they’re going to set a goal unfortunately sets them up for failure. Let’s take a look again at the ever common, New Year’s Resolution. Why do you think gyms have such a boom in January then the numbers fade out, back to comfort, back to where we once were? Ironically, comfortable yet incredibly uncomfortable…yet again. Does this sound familiar? What if this does not have to be the case? What if we had the control and power needed to accomplish our goals? This is where the power of intent comes in. I can assure you that if you don’t know why you are doing something, and I truly mean why, not some superficial reason i.e. I want to look like a supermodel in my bikini or I want to make Bill Gates look broke in comparison to me, then you’re really going to have a tough time getting there. Where is the gusto behind your own self-talk when your intent is rather superficial and relatively hard to define? Logically, how can we make attainable steps by setting up such a huge goal without the how-to behind it? We are human after all.
Making It Happen
The power of positive thinking never hurts, nor does the law of attraction, but I can assure you that wishing something into reality is a good way to set yourself up for disappointment. I hate to break it to you, but if you want something, you must make it happen and that involves every aspect of life. You can wish to lose 30 pounds in a month but if you’re sitting on your couch eating leftover Halloween candy whilst watching Desperate Housewives reruns, then the only way you’ll drop those 30 pounds in a month is by chopping off a limb, which I don’t recommend. This isn’t to knock the law of attraction because it can work significantly to your advantage due to the clarity it promotes. The reason why those individuals who practice this wholeheartedly were and are so successful was not because they kept wishing their ideal reality into fruition but they had the most distinct clarity thus a clear “why” behind every step they took. Vision boards are beneficial for this. I want C so I must do A and B to achieve it. By asking yourself what you truly want, you can undoubtedly identify how to get there. When I’m in my car, I don’t say, “I want to go to Los Angelesish.” I say, “I want to go to my office at 9465 Wilshire Boulevard, Beverly Hills.” Without that clarity, we don’t end up where we need to be. How are we supposed to get to our final destination if we don’t even know what that destination is? That clarity is motivating because it gives us direction and when we have direction, we know what needs to be done to set a goal. This is also where having someone to hold you accountable is beneficial.
I will admit, goals seem scary to a lot of my clients because a lot of them experienced failure whilst trying to accomplish goals in the past. I don’t blame them! Not having clarity and thus not knowing what you’re supposed to do or even why you’re doing it is scary. It’s like walking into traffic blindfolded. We all need guidance and we all need specifics to achieve something. Why many don’t do this for goals is peculiar. It seems as if it’s only common sense to utilize knowledge we already have to obtain them. Alas, us humans are silly creatures at times and enjoy making things harder than they need to be.
This week I want you to start envisioning your goals, your ideal you and really get a feel for what you want…
Next week’s blog will give you the 6 specific steps you can take right now to achieve your goals so we can kick 2014 off properly and begin YOUR Legacy. As always, I’m here for you and with you so reach out if you need anything at all!